She ran away from the family. She got married.

One.

My grandfather, when he was young, was ridiculous, singing, doing business, breaking into Guandong, and couldn't earn a penny off his mouth and fell into a disease. When he had an asthma attack, the whole human body was like a hot windbox, with a rush to coughing from the hips to the hips. But that's the kind of guy who says he can beat up his wife and kids. My grandmother is clumsy, she can't do anything, she can't take care of her family or her children. The family was poor and children often couldn't even eat hot meals. She cooked a pot of melons, filled it with big pots, and put it on cold and cold and left it to the children. In order to prevent the child from stealing, Grandpa hid a bag of melons in the grass, and a group of children starved and looked for food around the grass. My sister-in-law was a bit silly, and once she couldn't take it, she went to steal corn from others. The master grabbed her, hung two corns around her neck and marched around the streets. She's not very nice since she was a kid and she's been ignored by her grandparents. Without schooling, she was at home looking after her sister and picking up her vegetables. When she was 13 years old, my sister-in-law had reached the age of school, and the school teacher found her home and saw the older aunt who had been delayed, and he urged her to take her to school. My father and uncle had already established a family, and the father was able to give Grandpa a little money from time to time, and his family had become better, so he agreed to go to school with his aunt in the same grade and class. It is as if the older sister who has not been able to attend school has suddenly begun to learn, unlike her sister, who is often late in school for food and who has brought dry food and forgot her school bag, and who has had a hard time studying and good grades. That's why Grandpa was afraid of the village people's jokes and was embarrassed to bring her back from school. Perhaps the aunt was already aware that schooling was her only chance to change her destiny and leave the countryside. My grandmother and grandmother were sisters, so my mother knew about Grandma's house as a child and, speaking of the past, she only said that she had never seen such a “single” or “hard” woman. At that time, the aunt lived in high school and returned to her house only once a week, and sometimes a violent family beats a beehive, crying and crying, and she was able to keep her eyes open. She went to the kitchen and folded a pancake, picked up pickles from the pickles and packed them up and went back to school. My mother did not understand that she should be at home as a daughter. But I felt that perhaps the aunt had been completely disappointed, or even desperate, by the violence, the collapse, the disgraced family. The aunt tried to jump out of the farm, but her education was not going well. In the 1980s, there was a low enrolment rate at the university level, and there were more examination students in Shandong, and in the first year of high school, she did not even go to college. The sister-in-law did not like it, but the aggressive grandfather felt that he had given the opportunity to take the examination, that it was not his own, and that it was impossible for her to read it again year after year at home. More importantly, girls are too old to find a better mother-in-law. So Grandpa didn't take his eyelids, and he left a sentence: "You can't take the test without it."

The bride-in-law is more beneficial to the family than the rest of the rest of the world — a bride price; at 4.08 a.m., the son-in-law will bring her a good meal; and the daughter-in-law will come back to help with the farm day. The father and the daughter remained deadlocked, and a relative who had served in an institution in the north-east was later informed of his willingness to relocate his family to the north-east, where she would take a university examination. On the phone, the relative was full of confidence: "Stand down!

As a result, Grandpa stopped obstructing and my father and uncle expressed their support, he went to the north-east after spending most of his six months studying at Shandong's Beatles and successfully admitted to Jilin University. Colleges didn't have school fees, they had subsidies. My father often remitted money to his aunt, who was largely independent and left the family completely. In the second year of his second year, his grandfather died of a brain hemorrhage, and since then she has come home less and less, even occasionally for a few days, in the house to read and sleep and to speak to the village and even her family. Two.

In the winter of 1992, my aunt returned to Shandong with her boyfriend, Seo Lihon, a classmate of her university class. Suh Li Hong, with a height of 1 metre, is wearing a black coat and is a beautiful person. She's not very pretty, but she's better than a man. She was also wearing a very nice black dress, with black heels on her feet, standing with a tall boyfriend, with an impeccable pride on her face, and an impeccable atmosphere. They were all bought by Seo Lihhong, and the aunt loved them, so she went home and hung her coat with care, and the dark room was so dazzling. Seo Lihon also paid her to cut her eyelids, and I looked at her face in secret. It was quite different. Her face was white, her eyes had become brightened, the black hair of Zilong's chin had a good look at her face. On this occasion, the aunt no longer lived in the house, but dragged Seo Lihon around the village. They crossed out of the dirt and walked together on the streets of a dilapidated village, where the people watched with admiration and praised the son-in-law of an old grandson who had always been despised. After graduating from the university, Grandmother and Seo Lihon were assigned to a large State enterprise in the city of Pydu, one in administration and one in technology. When the work was stabilized, they were married, the housing allowance paid by the unit, together with the money paid by the mother-in-law, and two small families bought a building in the centre of the city, three rooms and two rooms, which were very popular. After her daughter was born, Yeon-yeon, my father and her sister-in-law went to bed to drink the full moon, and found out that she had indeed married a good family — the mother-in-law was capable and worthy; the father-in-law was strong and the father-in-law had a hard time; the brother-in-law of Seo Li-hon was a government official; and his brothers and sisters were able to speak out. Xu Lihon is the best, most respected, and best-looking son in the family. Once in a while, she comes home to her mother's house, and she's dressed up, and she's looking well and happy. One time, my mother came back and said, "Your great-uncle loves your aunt, who sleeps on the bed, your great-uncle and your father and your uncle drink tea on the table, and he beats your great-uncle with mosquitoes. Your sister-in-law is lucky to have found such a good man..."

The aunt also talks about the mother-in-law, but unlike the married women in the village, she only complains about her family and is proud to compare horizontally:

“Our mother is so dreary, my mother-in-law is so full of stuff, my mother-in-law is so clean and clean, and he is from a country.”

"We're just gonna be in trouble, we're gonna cry, we're not gonna make it. My father-in-law, who is also a farmer, is able to make a small trade in the city, to get up early and dark and to earn a living without suffering.”

"If you drink, you'll look like you're talking. Brother, why don't you learn from Seo Li Hong's brother? Look how good they are."

Ever since my aunt went to college, she's no longer a common “buster” and, in the face of her criticism, Grandma and my father will only laugh in shame. But when I came home, my father wanted to be more normal: "Why didn't your aunt say Seo Lihon when she laughed at me for a drink? This guy's a real drunk, and he hasn't seen a man like that. Still, a man who sees seafood as a child eats and licks his finger.”

"It's also sticky, but--" Father was proud and happy to say, "It's not a bad thing that your aunt can live in his house, take care of him, I can see it!

3

For so many years, my mother had always compared herself to her aunt. They were all the most indifferent daughters of their parents, but their attitude towards them was completely different. Mothers go to school all day and get married to be nice to their families. When I was a child, my brother and I wore the dirt-scattering cotton from my family's handiwork, the mother paid her nephew to buy rare feathers. The aunt was much more obstinate, and she only managed to run her own small family after marriage, and she was reluctant to ask questions about her family, and even treated her family as a burden, leaving it far behind. After my grandmother's death, my aunt returned home only once in a year or two and, in addition to making every effort to bring in her younger sister, who grew up with herself, she was not very close to her brother, sister, nephew or niece, and even seemed unfriendly. She came back largely empty-handed and asked the children about their studies, but left with a variety of specialties carefully prepared for her family, leaders and colleagues. My mother and aunt are upset about this. My mother complained many times, saying she didn't want to be nice: "Don't think how much money your father sent to her when she was in college. Why don't you kiss this big brother?"

Then I listened to her by chance before I understood the reason for it. She thought it would be better if my father didn't get mad. For one year, my parents were in a small business selling seafood dry goods, passing through the flat and staying at my aunt's house. After giving birth to the baby, she was fat, and the whole person was round and round, and her waist was long gone. Yeon-yeon was still not thin, she was about to be generous, and she was not very much interested in her image, and she received her sister-in-law in a large old dress. Seo Li Hong is a little fatter, but his face is much younger, and he's wearing a suit, and he's good. Shortly after he was promoted to the post of technical director of the factory, his aunt was so eager to please his wife, not only to go to his house to give gifts, but also to make a small ambush and cook for others. Xu Lihhong was later promoted, and his mother-in-law and brother-in-law were raised against his aunt. While eating, Seo Lihon was still greedy, and in front of my parents, she took his glass and drank, and said, "Suh Lihon, can't drink, can't be so faceless!" And he wasn't angry, and he laughed, "Just a little, just a little."

My father looked at this scene, boasting, and his uncle laughed, and said, "We are all Mi-Ling's masters." The aunt is at the edge of a happy place. It's just that behind this “rule”, it's an endless year after year. Suh Lihon left everything behind, except to eat, housework, children ' s education, chores of parents and relatives, and family life. In those years, Xu Lihhong's parents were hospitalized, and his brothers and sisters were married, all of whom were taken to the front and were left to work unscathed. She was three years older than Seo Li Hong, and now sits with a careless and well-maintained husband, making her older. After work, they talk about their children. She immediately let Yeon-yeon play the violin, and when Yeon-yeon came out, she was straight, she fell down, she had a violin around her neck, and she played very well. Asked about academic achievement, she was at the top of the list, and she looked at her daughter and was proud. The father told her about my brother's studies and frown: "Big is better, except for math, the other is good, the language is first. It's this little thing, it's a boy. I don't know what to do."

The aunt replied in a cold and simple manner: “If you don't go to college, you're going to plant the land, or you're going to do a little business with you.”

That's what my mother hated about her. She said, "What? My son only has land to grow? The mother was very excited to go home and put her brother in a room to study, and the TV wasn't even allowed. She threw her breath at me and said to me, "You're like your aunt, like your grandmother's family, alone! You're not like me, or your grandmother's family, and we can't count on you in the future."

Later, in order to prove that I was like a mother, like a grandmother, I spent almost half my life becoming a “puppet demon”. 4

At the age of 10, Yeon-yeon and Seo Lihon had started a business outside their jobs, and they had a joint shop with a colleague, selling maintenance tools. The man paid his wife to take care of the business. The woman was young and pretty, but she had a sweet mouth. The shop is closed, mainly by Seo Lihon, who is doing his job, and is getting better. One day, the aunt unwittingly discovered the secret in her husband ' s cell phone and began to notice that she had finally blocked the shop for two people who had burned wood. The woman's husband got the news and had to kill Seo Li Hong. When Seo Lihon was afraid, and was afraid to hide, she ended up talking to her sister-in-law and saying that she would take care of her own man, who was angry. The business was broken up and the shop closed, but the bad effects were far from over. At the time, the State was retrenching its personnel, and Xu Lihhong was so much more than just a few years away from his leadership, and he was in danger of being laid off. Seo Lihon was scared to death, and then went out to look for someone to look for, and finally saved her husband's job. After that, everyone exaggerated, generous, capable and unchallenged, and her mother-in-law ' s family stood by her side to condemn Seo Lihhong and make him change. After taking advantage of this opportunity to hold the family ' s economic power firmly in its hands, Seo Lihon asked for a pack of cigarettes. In the years of bad marriage, the aunt did not go back to her home, and during that time a few big things happened in the family: my uncle died and my aunt remarried; my aunt married to the city; and we were left alone in the village. There are also good reasons why aunts sometimes go back to their homes for spring break: they live in buildings in the city, in good conditions, in cold rural areas, in toilets without water, etc. In only one year, both the aunt and the aunt came to my house for a New Year. Suh Lihon has not changed so much, but he has no taste for wine and has a sticky invitation to my father and his uncle. He's been drinking, and he's been drinking my father and my little uncle, and he's yelling, "We can't stay." I found that the auntie had changed so much this time, that she had become “young” in her dress, and that the curly hair on her shoulder had become stylish brown, but not for her rigid face. She was wearing a white short velvet, with a large red coat and a gold-colored snake-coated tights. She's wearing all these stylish clothes, but she has a strong sense of age. Even more striking are her eyebrows, new tattoos, tall ones, a little hanging. The aunt lost weight and her eyes were dimmed, and she laughed with shame, saying that Seo Li Hong was fat. She smiled and her cheekbones were barely able to hang loose skin. After dinner, she started dancing, saying she was too full to save fat and had to move right away. In the countryside, there was no warmth, shoes were taken off and jumped on the concrete floor, Queen-in-law was cold enough to inhale, had to put on shoes, had to jump on his right foot for half an hour and had to sweat. After the exercise, the aunt was in a hurry to wash and greet her face with bottles and jars, all of which were expensive brands. My aunt and my mother listened to the price and told me she didn't like it. And she said, with pride, "Women must love themselves so that others can love you." This is a phrase that has been abused by various emotional public figures. After using the bottled jar, the aunt kept washing Seo Li Hong's feet while he was drunk and crooked on the couch. She turned on cold and hot water, tried again, and my mother and I looked at each other. I began to remember the one who grew up in black, short-haired black, with a hard face and a sense of pride. There is no way to win or lose between husband and wife, nor is it the loss or loss seen by outsiders. When Seo Lihon broke up with the woman, she started picking on her aunt. He blames himself for cheating on her for being too fat, unpaved, and uninterested. He blames his aunt for taking care of him and training him, as well as for the children. The statements were even implicitly supported by many, including the aunt ' s mother-in-law and colleagues. A man like Seo Lihon does not reflect on her own fault, and a woman's problems always tend to reflect on her fault, and society forces her to reflect even if she does not want to. The result of her reflection is that she's going to be a big woman, she's going to hang on to this house, and she's going to hang on to the money, the kids, the mother-in-law, the people, the public opinion, and she's going to learn to be a little woman who's different from her nature, and she's going to go down in front of Seo Li-Hon, and she's going to talk softly, she's going softly...

On both sides, they're tough, they're tired. Thus, the unbelieving sister-in-law invited the Buddha to his home, burning the incense and worshiping each day, in the hope that the Buddha would bless her family. 5

When Yeon-Yon went to college, Seo Li Hong was found cheating again. The woman who divorced this time was said to love Seo Li Hong very warmly, and she called her aunt: “I am 17 years younger than you and I love Seo Li Hong more than you. We love each other, and if you're a face-and-faced man, you get a divorce and I'll marry Seo Lihon."

The two men were tired of being together for three days, and the woman was more frequent in harassing the aunt, sometimes crying on the phone, sometimes laughing, sometimes expressing love, sometimes threatening, even with the details of their dating. She blames and curses Seo Lihon, but he spreads his hand without changing his face: "Whatever you want to do," and then takes his coat and leaves. At that time, the situation was completely different from that of Seo Li Hong, when he first cheated: Yeon was an adult and went to Shanghai to study; Seo Li Hong had a limited career and had little concern; his father-in-law had passed away (his last few years in bed with his sister-in-law), and the living mother-in-law had grown old and had been confused from time to time, and had not been able to speak at home since that year; and the brothers and sisters had taken care of their families and no one wanted to take care of her. No one in her family has ever supported her, except Yeon-yeon, who threw Seo Lihon's face at her on vacation and yelled at him as a scum, saying, "Do you respect my mother?" Get rid of the woman or I won't recognize your father!"

Suh Lihon is so sticky, he doesn't talk about it. When the daughter was at home, he tried not to date his lover, and when the daughter went to school, he got back. On several occasions, Yeon-yeon advocated a divorce for her parents, who encouraged her to go to a new life. She did not want to do so because Seo Lihon drank and smoked all day, and her blood pressure was high. At the very least, he can be persuaded to drink less and smoke less, in order not to cause trouble to his daughter in the future. In the end, she was unable to leave Xu Lihhong for the house she had worked so hard to run. My brother and I have been to my aunt's house, and from the outside, it's a long time ago. In order to be good at home, there is no room for too much, too much mess, and it's a sort of collection; the wood floor is changed once and waxes once a year; there are many fine items in the house, which are souvenirs brought back from a three-legged trip...

She put too much effort into the family and was too close to her, so she swayed with the death of a pig and swayed between two women for years. It is painful to say that those years have been brought down and that, although she has eaten well, she is not fat enough to be happy. Once, she went to her house, pushed the door open, and there was smoke, and she was worshiping Buddha. She had a loose skin, a yellow face, two little eyes that couldn't take a strong light at once, and she said, "Looking blind."

When Yeon-yeon graduated, he went to Chinan with his boyfriend, worked in a state-owned energy company and got married. After being a mother-in-law, she became a grandmother, and she became more and more. On the advice of Yeon-yeon, she had bought a new house near Yeon-yeon's house and planned to move to Chinan in May of the following year to look after her daughters and grandchildren. Everyone thought it was a good thing to stay with their children as soon as they retired, with a new spirit, and to give Seo Lihon a taste of the days without her care, and maybe things might turn around. Since the retirement arrangements were made, the number of visits to their homes has increased, and last year alone, three times, which was not the case before. It may be that people are old, tired of, hate for, and many sweet memories hidden in their hearts. I heard aunty and aunty talk to my dad about going to a gathering when they were kids, and I only bought one sugar man and four brothers and sisters licked each other.

The aunt was a lot better for my dad, she cared about his health, took him to the cans and bought a broken-waller to teach him how to use it. However, at the end of October, when their brother-in-law was in good company, the aunt suddenly died. Six.

The cathedral is small, very old. In the middle was a coffin wrapped in a yellow-and-white picture, with a black and white statue of the aunt on a small table, with a plethora of offerings, which had been assembled from a funeral shop near the funeral home, and placed on both sides of the table a red and a green paperman. There are few people, and it is cold. There is a row of four sittings around the coffin, while the mother's family sits on her side: father, sister-in-law, me, and the daughter of the sister-in-law. My father sits in the dark and occasionally wept; the sister-in-law slips from the seat in a moment of grief, tearing apart the coffin. My cousin and I had to hold her tight so that her head wouldn't hit on a concrete or casket. On the other side of the seat, only Seo Li Hong. At age 55, he was slightly pale, his chronically intoxicated face slightly swollen, but he could still see the contours of the old days, his tall body was well maintained, and his clothes were so well-dressed. He frowned, strung his legs, smoked one by one, and had a brand-new pair of blue and white high-class leisure shoes on his feet, which looked very high and did not show any sadness. Outside the auditorium, there were members of the aunt's mother-in-law's family and colleagues at the unit, who were busy preparing for the funeral tomorrow, and people who were standing to smoke, chatting and then bowing down to the coffin. They shook their hands with Seo Li-Hong and described him over and over and over again: 5:30 in the morning, the aunt went up to cook. He came back in the morning and found his aunt in the kitchen. He called 120, he was in hospital, he couldn't do it, the doctor said it was heart attack. He was told to mourn, and then pay. My colleague from the aunt's office came, and she cried: “Sun's the biggest sister in our office. Maybe it was the end of last year when Sun lost a dozen pounds of weight and the heart was probably bad."

And We thought, "The heart depends on the heart, and Seo Lian-Hong has gone astray for more than a decade, and the sister-in-law has been patient and laboring, and every day has been wear and tearing away from her heart, and her heart has long gone bad." By the afternoon, Yeong, who was pregnant for eight months, arrived in the temple with a large family of women. The mother-in-law held her in her arms and urged her: “Good boy, no crying, no crying in the arms of the child.”

Yeon can't cry, can't worship, can't look at the coffin. She choked and had a red face, and she wanted to see her mother's last face, but everyone disagreed, saying that she could not look with her child. When Yeon sat there for a few minutes, she was pushed out, and they said, "No turning back!"

The next day, before the body is cremated, the sister-in-law is to be humiliated in accordance with custom. And when the coffin was unearthed, We saw the last of the aunts, who had earned their lives, a small, wrinkled face, and peace, but bitter. After his face was wiped, his brother-in-law, who was covered in white cloth, shouted "Mommy", and then fell into a firebath, and his friends and family kneeled on their knees to say their last farewell on the steps. The body of the aunt was sent to the crematorium, after which her ashes were sent to the ancestral grave of Xu ' s family for burial. A pile of piles of paper money, dollars and paper-painted sedans were set on fire in several large steel cylinders on the stairs, and dust circled in the cold wind. I suddenly had a feeling of frustration, and there was no older woman in the world who disappeared from the world without a word. On the way home, I got a phone call from my mother, and she cried, "Your cousin is pathetic, there is no mother." We all know that Seo Lihon will marry again and that the cousin will return to a strange home, without her mother's home, with a wound that will never heal. Actually, my aunt doesn't have a mother. A qualified mother-in-law is the bottom of a girl, and it was the lack of strength that brought her down by the moths to embrace a diabolical marriage and to work hard to maintain what is called dignity. (The characters are aliases)

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